Pregnancy - What to really expect when expecting!

I am not sure how I managed to make it to almost 30 and not really understand what to expect when expecting. My mother has 5 children from 4 pregnancies; almost all of my friends had children in their early to mid 20’s. Yet somehow no one informed me of all the crazy mood swings and plethora of other problems that come up while you are pregnant. I realize that every pregnancy is different, but at the very least your friends should share their experiences. They tell you that you get mood swings, but they do not explain what it is really like. No one explained the bond I would make with my unborn child. They tell you that it happens, but why not share it in great detail. I know that every pregnancy is different, but I have had a lot of pregnant friends and family, so I feel like I would have been let in on a little more of the secrets. My first trimester was pure hell. I can tell you one thing my close friends that do not have children will be fully informed.

We or I should say I am a planner and had planned to get pregnant between 28 and 32 since the time I was 22.  Once we decided to get pregnant, we had a little trouble.  I was not ovulating.  Finally, we got pregnant in the 10th month, October, of trying.  I did not want to be pregnant in the heat of summer, but someone else had a better plan for me and our unborn child. When I found out I was pregnant, I text my husband a picture of the positive pregnancy test.  This was the first of many mistakes we made along the way.  My husband apparently had asked me to tell him in person.  However, during all the excitement I forgot this tiny detail.  This was likely the starting point of all our troubles as my husband is like a lot of women and holds grudges. During my first trimester my husband and I could not get along. Neither of us knew what it would really be like and could not come to terms with it.  I was tired all of the time and I am typically a very busy person.  My husband could not get used to this.  This was just the icing on the cake, it added to all the other pressures of pregnancy.

There are so many things to think about when you are pregnant.  First you have all the reading and preparation for pregnancy and what to expect. I am telling you now to take everything with a grain of salt.  A lot of it is common sense, but when you are pregnant for the first time you are nervous and want everything to go off without a hitch.